If you have two or more children, it is unlikely that their upbringing will pass, at least from time to time, without conflicts
Why is this so?
Because children, like adults, measure their strengths, fight for more attention, influence and respect.
And since they are still children, they also make mistakes, not always choosing the best methods to achieve what they want.
Since parents are “competent” in resolving their quarrels, it is essential that you understand problems of this kind seriously and carefully.
Stop the argument and help them calm down
As soon as you notice that the children are arguing, stop immediately. Otherwise, the little ones can lose control and seriously hurt each other.
Before you start talking about what happened, sit down so that everyone is on the same level. Choose your words and listen carefully to what they have to say.
Never take sides
Equality and an equal stance should definitely be a priority. Use experience to put yourself in the role of “judge”. Keep in mind that it is never possible to determine the real cause, if you were not present from the very beginning, which is most often not the case, you must definitely accept it.
Let it be your rule that either ALL those who were part of the quarrel or NO ONE will always be punished.
Teach your children that compromise is always the best solution
If arguments between children often end in beatings, do everything you can to explain to them that fighting is unacceptable and that hitting is only allowed as a method of defense. This seems like an impossible mission, so you are the parents.
Another problem is that children in early childhood have difficulty understanding the concept of compromise. That’s why it’s important to be there, because only then will you be able to steer the conversation in a direction that brings solutions. Provide a place where children can release their anger. Choose a pillow together, and make sure everyone knows that it is the ONLY thing in the house that is allowed to hit in a moment of anger.
Be understanding
If you have just heard one of your children tell the other that they “hate it”, this can be terrible, but when it comes to children, words don’t have the weight they have when adults say it, don’t forget this.
Reward good behavior
and in this case we don’t think about material things. Reward them by telling them how happy and proud you are when you see them do something together, when they play well, when they help each other.
In the vast majority of cases, thanks have a much more powerful effect than reprimands.
Be a good example for them
Don’t argue in front of your children. Don’t swear while driving. Don’t talk badly about others.
Don’t slam the door when you’re angry. Never. Children do what they see, not what you tell them.
